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Summary: This article discusses the most common and realistic reasons why many marriages fail and provides valuable insight into these issues.
Toronto is one of the most diverse cities in the world. With people of all races and countries living in one locale, it's only natural that some fall in love cross-culturally. We'd all like to believe this is of no consequence when it comes to love but a few years down the line, tears in the fabric of the relationship start to appear.
According to one divorce lawyer in Toronto, young couples are likely to disregard culture as they're falling in love but as they get older, they wish to recreate a home life similar to what their parents had and are no longer able to. This is a very common reason for divorce especially when someone from a more liberated Western culture marries someone from a far more conservative, Eastern culture.
When walking down the altar, many couples are willing to sacrifice anything in order to marry each other. Sometimes what they have to sacrifice is family. When parents or friends disapprove of their loved one's spouse, it may seem like there is still no choice left but to jump. After all, the alternative is walking away from the one you love.
The reason this can ultimately lead to divorce is because cutting ties to marry one person gives them the burden of replacing everyone else you lost. When they fall short, this leads to resentment. "I gave up everything for you and you can't even be there for me" is something your divorce lawyer may say he is likely to hear these couples say.
An imbalanced financial burden can lead to friction between two people no matter how compatible they are otherwise. These days, women are more likely to be the breadwinners in the family than ever before. There are two problematic outcomes of this scenario. Some men are more than happy to take this advantage and start to get too comfortable. Even a woman who is incredibly patient while her husband searches for a job is likely to lose her cool if he chooses to sit at home and play video games instead of being proactive.
The other unpleasant scenario of a woman supporting her husband is the common dilemma of aman who feels emasculated if he's not the one bringing home the bacon. Even men who believe themselves to be progressive in terms of viewing both genders equally can start to feel inadequate in this scenario. It can lead to resentment which eventually bubbles over and leads to fights over unrelated issues. In this case, it is possible to prevent divorce with couples therapy if you work on the problem before it explodes.
The issue of children is one that has lead to divorce for hundreds of years. In the old ages, women who were unable to conceive or were unable to provide their husband with male heirs were discarded as useless wives. Now that we know gender selection is dependent entirely on the male's sperm, it has made little difference to help couples having issues over conception.
Even in our scientifically advanced society, it is possible for one person in a marriage to desire to leave the other when they are unable to have children. This can be a man or a woman with fertility issues. This problem can be resolved with In Vitro Insemination, a sperm donor, a surrogate or even adoption.
However, when one person in a couple simply does not want children but the other desperately does, the issue becomes choosing your spouse over potential children. Even when two people love each other deeply, this can be a deal break especially when both feel strongly on opposite ends of issue.
Taking responsibility for a child against your will can cause cracks in a marriage just as much as giving up the chance to be a parent because your loved one doesn't want the responsibility. The best way to avoid this is to have a detailed conversation on the prospect of being a parent long before saying yes to the dress.
Assumptions and preconceived notions are silent marriage killers. Loving someone so much that you are unable to see their true self is what causes marriages to fall apart what seems suddenly but was actually a long time coming. This happens when you assume someone is on the same page without having a conversation.
Couples that experienced this problem often come to their marriage counselor with the complaint that they thought they knew each other really well but turned out to not know each other at all. A couple that falls in love quickly and has extremely good sexual chemistry often fail to talk in detail about their future plans and preferred lifestyle. When they start living together and start talking more often than jumping in bed, problems start to arise. It is important to talk about everything in detail before letting someone slip a ring on your finger.