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Short Summary: Trying to break an addiction, failing and getting back up on the feet to try again requires a large amount of energy and a strong character.
30 million adults in the English speaking countries suffer from at least one type of addiction. Alcohol, gaming, internet, shopping, adult movies, eating and many others. Most of them try to escape from their addictions – but it’s not so easy. They potentially make numerous attempts to rid themselves of their undesired behavior, in which they fight alone, or simply read books about their addictions – and every time, they probably come to a failure point and eventually give up.
If you are one of them and also want to break your addiction you should ask yourself a number of questions in order to avoid the frustration and eventually overcome your problems. Start by writing down everything you did or tried to escape from your addiction – go back in time as far as you can. Think of the last few weeks and months but also go back to your adolescence if that is relevant. Also, take note of what you did each time to win the fight.
Ask yourself why these attempts failed. What were some of the reasons they did not work? How did you feel when your attempt failed? What was your reaction to those feelings? Was your main concern in suppressing those symptoms – your addictive behavior – or did you also try to find the reasons for your addiction? Did you try to solve your underlying problems and develop real alternatives for your life? Did you act against yourself or did you try to work with yourself in a caring manner? Did you consider the addiction as your enemy or as a part within yourself that was there for a reason?
An important insight that many people gain at this point is that they do not get anywhere being tough on themselves. You only develop by giving yourself some support and understanding. Can you agree to this? If you can - what does that mean for your life as of today? What can you change in your attitude and belief towards yourself? How far are you willing to go to change how you behave?
Realize that you tried to get away from your addiction for so often - and have not given up. What positive things does this say about your character? After considering all of this, do you have the right to feel like a loser or like a weak person? Is it logical to feel weak or bad if you always get up and try again? Rather, is there not an incredibly positive energy within you that strives for freedom? There are many people (no matter what their background), living under sad and dissatisfactory conditions, but in sharp contrast to you, do not do anything about it and just sit on their couch all day feeling sorry for themselves.
It’s important that overcoming an addiction takes some time and can require several attempts, trying out different approaches. Don’t feel frustrated too early. Try self-help programs or counseling to support you in your fight. Your will power plus a structured psychological approach can be the key to success. Realize that addicts who overcome their problems tend to be happier people than the average of the population. Many researchers have shown this.
I am Frank Lavario, founder and author of the Lavario programs. My colleagues and I have been working a lot with addicts from all over the world. Sometimes we put our experience into short articles.